So this time a couple of weeks ago we were celebrating 100 years since women got the vote, (subjective to their class and status of course. Women had to be over 30, and occupiers of property or married to occupiers). Did the women who tied themselves to lamp posts and threw themselves under this Kings horse do it for this, a female Prime Minister bribing MP’s to vote against free school meals?
Her DUP party made sure they were exempt from the new law which will affect a million children. They kept their own were safe, then voted against the rest. The whole situation is so unfair it’s laughable it’s allowed. There should be an Office of Fair Government that oversees biased decisions.
I don’t know how Teresa May can look at herself in the mirror. Has she ever been hungry? Has she ever had to go to her boss and beg for an advance on her wages, or put back shopping at the till because she didn’t have enough money? How, until she has experienced disadvantage or poverty, can she make an informed decision about what is best for people who live it every day? I’ve been too poor for food. I told people I was on a diet, but actually, cereal was all I could afford, breakfast, lunch and dinner. I know what pity looks like and it’s not pretty.
An article in the Guardian written by a secret teacher heartbreakingly read; “Friends in nearby schools report that they’ve joined the Brushing Buddies initiative, teaching children to brush their teeth, as their parents see toothbrushes and toothpaste as an expense they don’t need. Others tell of pupils who have to take school stationery home to do their homework, where they share beds with siblings or sleep on mattresses on the floor. A school in Lancashire recently made the news because it’s washing clothes for parents almost every day, and giving many of them breakfast, as well as their children.”
The teachers doing this are no doubt facing cuts to their schools and wages, digging deep into empty pockets to try and improve the life of their pupils.
SO Thursday 8th March 2018 is International Women’s Day. It’s also the one day of the year when I feel part of a ‘sisterhood’. I never had a sister and I don’t even have enough friends to book a bowling lane, but on International Women’s Day I get to align myself with better women doing great things and feel a kinship due to the fact I have a vagina. Go vaginas!
I’m lucky enough to have a platform to raise awareness of awesome women, so on international women’s day 2018, I give kudos to the following females, rocking in a world that’s still not free from sexual discrimination.
I salute you, shaven-headed 18-year-old Emma Gonzalez, for speaking out after the valentine’s day shooting in Florida. Your elegant, passionate speech stirred hearts and turned heads. Your shaming of Trump was perfect when you said:
“I am going to happily ask [US President Trump] how much money he received from the National Rifle Association [NRA],", adding, "OK. You want to know something? It doesn't matter because I already know," she proclaimed.
"$30 million!", she went on. "And divided by the number of gunshot victims in the United States, in the one and one-half months in 2018 alone, that comes out to being $5,800 [per victim]. Is that how much these people are worth to you, Trump?"
Here’s to you, Tarana Burke, an America civil rights activist and the first person to use the hastag #metoo to raise awareness of the widespread sexual abuse and assault in society. You first used it 12 years before Alyssa Milano stumbled on it. Your #metoo hashtag was used more than 12 million times as women round the world shared their pain and was responsible for a handful of high profile men losing their jobs. Thank you.
Hand claps to Christine Jardine, a Liberal Democrat demanding the House of Lords be renamed House of Peers. You pulled no punches when you said: “The current gender-specific House of Lords title is no longer appropriate. It feeds into an outdated and unacceptable narrative that political decision-making is a man’s job. In this centenary year of female voting and election rights, it is surely time to recognise that our upper chamber is not a male preserve.”
Pressure is starting to mount about where to send the eldest after primary school. Fundamentally, my beliefs are simple. I don’t think people with money should be entitled to a better education than those without. Children should go to the schools closest to them. If your local community is good enough to live in, then the community school should be good enough for you children. If your local school isn’t performing well, how will it ever get better if us parents do not invest in it?
Going to school with a mix of children from other ethnic and social backgrounds will help prepare kids for life. It’s important they see, and learn alongside people better off and indeed worse off, than themselves.
I don’t think any secondary school in the south east will provide a ‘bad education’. We don’t live in a third world country, nor do I believe secondary school is the only chance to get an education.
How many of us knew what we wanted to do and be when we were 11?
When I was 11 I wanted to be a helper in the local old people’s home because I used to visit an elderly relative there and got to push the tea trolley..
I didn’t know myself, what I wanted to do, or have the confidence to pursue it until I was 26 and pregnant. It took multiple dead-end jobs I hated for me to realise I needed to claw myself out the rut I was in. I saved up, went back to school, got my NCTJ journalist qualification and now I do a job I love.
My eldest daughter wants to be an artist. She’s quirky, but she’s no Bob Ross. People have spoken to me about getting her an art scholarship at a private school, but the very idea repels me. Can you imagine a kid of mine among privileged princesses?
Unsurprisingly, I went to the local school. At the time it was not doing that well. Kids from the ‘undesirable estates’ promised to ‘flush your head down the bog’ and the teachers didn’t seem to notice if you were there or not. They were old and jaded, doling out the same worksheets each week, and the staff room stank of fags and stale booze. Unless you were incredibly self-motivated (AKA a swot) then school was a chance to catch up with friends, flirt with boys, and make weekend plans.
Yes we rolled our skirts up, but under our shirts were padded training bras. There was one girl who’d flash her bits for a Mars bar, and admittedly she was quite popular, (and quite chubby) but it didn’t make inspire me to copy her. I was more of a Snickers girl. I left school with a handful of GCSE’s and my virginity intact. I deemed it a success.
I just finished reading Bird Song by Sebastian Faulks, a novel about WWI. My great-grandfather served in WWI, in the trenches. He came home missing an eye, deaf in one ear and never spoke. He lived well into his 90’s, so I got to spend time with him, in silence. We watched Laurel and Hardy or Tom and Jerry and he’d always pour the last of his tea into his saucer for the dog.
He had two budgies called Snowy and Joey. When Joey got too old to fly back into his cage, grandad made him an intricate ladder out of matches. I imagine it was a miniature version of the crude ladder he might have climbed down into the tunnels in Flanders. He was so proud of that ladder, but when he turned to show Joey, he mis-stepped and trod on him.
As a kid, I loved this story but was never allowed to laugh. In the spring, he made cuttings of geranium plants and the sun room smelt like soil. These are the only pieces I have of him, an incomplete jigsaw. He died when I was eight. My aunt told me it was peacefully in his sleep, but I later found out he died shouting for the guns to stop.
His high-backed Parker Knoll chair was passed down to me. I’m still too scared to sit in it, in case it holds his secret horrors. For years I remained respectfully silent in my wondering about his years in France, but since reading Bird Song, my curiosity will not be quieted. I contacted distant relatives, seeking information, and with the scant details I gleaned, signed up to ancestry.com.
Within minutes I was looking at his service record. The form was right there on my laptop. His signature scrawled in pen, swearing to be faithful and bear true allegiance to his Majesty King George the Fifth, so help him god. He was 18 years old.
I felt guilty for finding it. Here was what he didn’t want me to know. He was in the Royal West Surrey Regiment, in the Labour Corps, providing unskilled labour, and then he was put into the infantry. He served on the front line.
My quest is not complete. I plan to find his exact regiment and location, and then I’m going to go to that field in France and stand on the soil he toiled on. Even with all I know about WWI, it will only ever feel like a field to me, I never risked my life there, or took another’s.
Some people think children should not learn about the war. Some people think WWI was called the great war because we did well, not because so many people died – pushed over the top in a slow march to their inevitable death.
I can’t comprehend how I was ever in the same room as a man who had to witness these horrors. Perhaps if I hadn’t known a small piece of him I wouldn’t feel so moved by the books I’ve read and documentaries I’ve watched, but I can still see the brown speckled skin on his hand as it shook holding his tea. His hands were always shaking. What did those hands do?#